Allysa D. | Posted on October 29, 2011
The past few weeks have been an absolute blur. There was Fall Weekend, Family Weekend, and of course, midterms. While many kids went home to spend time with their families over the fall break or had the whole family crash the campus for Family Weekend, I went home to be with my dad. Just me and Dad.
Sometimes it feels lonely that it’s just us. My brother’s down in Georgia finishing up his last year in school. My mom’s not here anymore. It feels like my family shrunk by a thousand times with the loss of mom. But regardless, my dad and I have grown so much closer together out of this time. It’s wonderful being home with him, being surrounded by all the memories of mom. It’s bittersweet, but I love being home. And most of all, I love being with dad.
A couple of weeks ago, I was having a really hard time. But Hopkins helped me get through it. With the permission of the Dean, I was able to go home for a week as well as a couple of long weekends. All of my professors were so helpful. Some sent me their lecture notes, some gave me extensions (thanks!), and some even just let me off the hook for assignments (more thanks!). It was unbelievable. It means so much to receive help because dealing a loss so immense like this, it’s really emotionally draining. I find myself tired a lot more often. I find that it’s difficult to concentrate on things. And whenever I find something that reminds me of mom, it throws me off for the rest of the day or even for the week. So, in the past weeks, I’ve probably been home more often than at Hopkins. When I first went home in October, as soon as I saw Dad on the platform, we both started crying. It was then when I realized we had such a bond because we both went through the tragedy of that night together and have pulled each other up on the way. While things like that have sometimes been heartbreaking and immensely sad, there have been really good times too.
For example – my suitemates. They are AMAZING! They always manage to put a smile on my face and we’ve had such fun times. We sometimes cook dinner together, which can either turn out to be a masterpiece or a disaster. Two of my suitemates are in a sorority and I’ve gone to a few of their events (I’m rushing this year as a sophomore yay) and they have turned out to be really fun times.
My friends and I have also gone to D.C. which has also been great (again, it’s just 7 dollars to take the MARC train from Penn Station to Union Station in D.C.!). My friends and I went back to the same place that I visited over the summer – Georgetown. A couple of my friends have siblings at Georgetown and through them, we’ve met really awesome people. As a matter of fact, we’re all here in D.C. right now this weekend to celebrate Halloween (a snowy Halloween, that is)! My dad’s birthday (happy sixty something, dad!) is also this weekend and he’s here with my aunt. It’s really nice having him down here – just me and dad.